If a girl doesnt like herself

by Viona via UN Volunteers

Do you know what can make your life terrible every day? Living in a body that you do not like. I mean, you are stuck in your body for the rest of your life and no matter if you modify it, you can never exchange it. It is still your body and the emotions you feel beneath are going to be the same. 

Not liking the body you live in is equivalent to insulting yourself for a choice that you did not make.

Imagine this, none of us were there when the first human being existed and we don’t know what she or he looked like, so why would you let anyone tell you if your body is good enough or not. While the human features are basically the same with head, hands, feet, there is no detailed template on what a human should look like, so don’t let anyone tell you that your body is not the right fit. No, not even you.

Focus on being healthy physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally but mind you, health is not reflected by a number on the scale. Don’t starve yourself or dress in the way that you don’t like just because you want to fit in. The only place you should be trying to fit in is your body and believe me, you are a perfect match. Society, media or friends can say that you are not but believe me, without influence of society, media or friends, you would see nothing wrong with you.

To like yourself, gives you the opportunity to live a more fulfilling life. Take note that accepting who you are and liking yourself are quite different. To start liking yourself again, every time you wake up in the morning, tell yourself aloud ‘It is good to be me.’ You may not believe yourself at first and you may feel a little embarrassed but as you keep saying that, it will start to sink into your mind that it is good to be you no matter what you look like. Do not ever compare yourself with others, there was only one original human and no one was there to tell what his or her appearance was.

Look in the mirror and see your true self. Shut off that media barking at the back of your head and telling you all that is wrong with you. Each day, find a new thing to love about yourself, write it down and stick it on your mirror. You may feel discouraged to do so every day but by doing this you are building your own self confidence and finding the true beauty that you are.

It is meaningless for someone else to convince you that you are beautiful if you don’t believe it yourself. But believe me, you are a unique individual so start liking who you are today. Be safe.